A RIB asked me if I have anyone in my life (as a friend, etc.) who I used to date. I said yes. Here’s what he had to say in response. Seriously.
I’m sorry, but I don’t like being in a relationship in which I’m made to feel threatened. I make great efforts to live my life in such a way so that when I do meet someone and begin a relationship, they have nothing to be concerned about.
The problem is that most people don’t want a truly monogamous relationship anymore. Most women tend to hang on to someone they’ve had sex with and that’s not something a potential partner should have to deal with. It’s not fair and it’s just asking for problems.
You seem like a nice person otherwise, but I don’t think you’re prepared for a mature, exclusive relationship. At some point you’ll have to choose between the ex’s or a relationship.